Asking "do you agree with my opinion X" feels good in the moment: the other person is more likely to agree, as agreeing feels good. Asking "what do you think" without pre-supplying your take is riskier. But it's worth it, because you get more information, which is far more valuable than feeling good in the moment.
The first is the definition of a leading question
Yes, definitely the second option. The question "what do you think" generally makes people nervous. But it makes them more honest. It is very valuable to receive an honest and sincere answer. đ«Ą
Also makes the other person feel like their opinion matters.
The difference I see is that you can choose to challenge your ideas or not
Use 1 for influencing and testing, and 2 for exactly what you said, both can have value based on your goals
Do you agree with my opinion that it is driving towards biased answer when the person asking highly thinks of you.
An open mind will lead to more takes and a further discussion while a conservative one will only be pleased.
This is a great book on how to ask the right questions. https://www.momtestbook.com/
Both of those are bad questions because they are basically the types of questions your mom would agree with you on if you asked her. The Mom Test is a great book on how to ask the right questions. Here is the pdf: https://manuelohan.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/The-Mom-Test-en.pdf
agree except on ct where people seem to think it makes them sound smarter to always disagree
i agree w your opinion here and think the same u canât build products by asking users if they agree w your opinion. you must always know the user. same in dialogue.
in my experience the accuracy of the answer is more a function of the relationship between the person asking the question and the person being asked than how the question is asked
my new fave is âwhat am I missing?â - forces the person to think - gives them permission to point out possible errors in your thinking - invites them to participate in the discovery journey cons: - might force them to find something negative to say just to sound clever. But this is rare.
Phrasing questions properly, is a powerful communication skill. Thank you for sharing đ€ Another one I learned is ending presentations with: What are Your questions? (On a slide, and verbally). A lot more inviting of feedback than the standard - and a bit hostile - Any Questions..!? đ€
How about: Walk me through your thinking process!
Socrates actually uses a third way: "Do you agree that this is *your* opinion Y?" Socrates supplies and arranges his hypothesis of the interlocutor's opinion, and tries to discover if it is consistent with itself. Those who interpret him generously call him just. Those who interpret him suspiciously call him ironic.
I don't want to pay for using X, I would prefer Farcaster!
Opinion doesnât matter if they donât know what theyâre building and whatâs their vision.
My opinion, youâre a genius. However, now time to take it to the next level and find a girl, and have a family. Only then, once you can separate yourself from others, can you understand, and take it to the next levelâŠthe world is different with kidsâŠyou donât only want yo do good, you feel MUST do good
Itâs like a trend in the web3 space. If you chase the trend, trust me itâs already over. Build what YOU want, not what others think you should want. Lastly⊠conversation is not about agreement. Itâs a dialogue.