how you react to a situation says more about yourself than it says about the person to which you're reacting

Truth. Rltd heuristic: if looking to qualify someone as long-term partner/peer see their first reaction to constructive feedback. A+ players will immediately ask question to see if it’s their blind spot.. rest will start with defence. A+ players hire/play with A+. A hires/plays with B players and down hill from there

Yep. Especially strong negative emotions often tell you what the person don’t like about themselves.

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